What doesnt get written doesn’t happen
So yes, it’s that time of the year, you look back and you realize that all you might have wanted to be or want to achieve…eish. it’s not all there! The feelings and the reality of not being completely where or who we want to be might begin to dawn on you with a large sense of unease, so what do we do? We wish for the year to end, to begin the next, and we set some of those proverbial new years resolutions.
The statistics are shockingly sad because within three weeks most of us have broken these new years resolution , we somehow loose traction in trying to improve ourselves sometimes we don’t even bother ourselves anymore, these resolutions these( nods head from side to side)
The truth of the matter is that you are lying, you haven’t resolved to do anything.
Do you know what it means to resolve? It is a firm or unwavering adherence to one’s purpose, ultimately to one’s decision. It is firm meaning it cannot be shaken, it cannot be moved unwavering meaning nothing can change it, so you didn’t actually resolve because after a few weeks, you wavered you were shaken, your resolve evaporated when the heat came by.
If you are to resolve, if you are to decide to have to be or to do something, it is an immovable decision that you have taken upon yourself, a grip that nothing can detach because you decided it would be so. Regardless of what happens, its deciding it will be no matter what. A standard that must be reached.
Here are a few ideas to consider to make resolutions that are built to last:
The challenges and possible failures
Change: “difficult in the beginning messy in the middle and oh so gorgeous at the end” Robin Sharma.
When setting resolutions or goals we do not acknowledge the fact that we WILL face challenges when trying to build these resolutions into long life successes. The best is to put strategies in place to counter act and address these challenges. If you decide to exercise everyday there will be days where you are tired, when you feel it’s too cold to get out of bed, you might want to catch up on some sleep, someone might disturb you! Question is what will you do in these situations? What happens if you decide to save 20% of your income this year and reduce all of your debt? Becoming better requires change, did you acknowledge the fact that you might have to fore go some luxuries you have become accustomed to? That you have to budget better?
You are not starting at zero! Remain positive
Research shows that your brain will be more conditioned to achieve success when a positive outlook, is maintained neurochemicals called success accelerants get realised allowing you to perceive more possibility and being open to opportunity, pessimism closes off anything worthwhile
And by no means are you starting from zero! your achievements to date serve as a spring-board for further success, give yourself a handshake and a pat on the back for what you have done thus fur because research# shows that the brain accelerates towards the achievement the closer it perceives success. So when you right out your resolution write out what you have already achieved, and there is always something!
Plan of action and be specific
Corporations have mandates to be carried out throughout their financial year, specific programs of action, but there is no mandate for your own life? Be the CEO of You PTY LTD
The difference between a plan and a wish: a plan is a wish with a date, time and some specifics. If you want to lose weight, how many kilos a week? By when? If what you trying to do is not clear how will you execute an ambiguous mission? The universe responds well towards being specific and decisive, you know what they say about Rome, take on small bite size chunks of your plan daily.
Change is a continual process
But wait why do they have to be “new year” resolutions? You can resolve at any moment, of any day to become more and become better, who said we have to wait for a new year? Then only we tend to realize we have not achieved, a little late don’t you think friends?
My challenge to you is to see your change as a continuous process, assess your progress weekly. Some means of measuring progress, set aside some time to take a look at the past week, with regards to your plans and resolutions, what can be done better take that and reinvest it into the following week not just on the 31st of December!
Don’t get caught in Euphoria
You have seen it: a hundred push ups on January 2nd, zero on the 28th. Up by 4am January 2nd . Hau! Then January 17th its back to being up 30 minutes before school or work. Do not get caught up in the fleeting excitement of the new year and the new you. Really resolve, so that it moves beyond excitement and even the cold winter mornings. You might have a set back but you get up and try again because you have resolved.
The life you desire the person you want to be is in reach, you are capable of turning your life around or elevating the quality of your life. We cannot change the past, we cannot change who did what to us, but you have the present you have the moment and each and every moment is pregnant with the next! Do best, in 20 for me! 20 fortune and why play small in 20 formidable.
We are ordinary men, striving for an extraordinary life.
The Khethelyst
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